Last Friday, I picked up a copy of Lean In for $13.59 at Costco. That very act illustrates the difference between me and Sheryl Sandberg. Lean In isn’t focused on women who have to work and bargain shop. It’s a book for wealthy, heterosexual married women with multiple choices - to have a baby or not; to stay-at-home with the baby or not; to schedule work around family dinners or not. Sandberg pays scant attention to the women who enable her and her peers to make these choices. Can a nanny lean in? Can Camille, the executive assistant, that has followed Sheryl to different companies over the past 10 years?
That said, I have an abundance of notes that hopefully will help me move forward with a career if I can ever discover what that means to me. So far over these last 13 years, I’ve let getting/having/keeping a tolerable job distract me.
1. Women “consistently underestimate ourselves” and that is a clear symptom of the impostor syndrome (page 29).
2. “Opportunities are rarely offered; they’re seized” (page 34).
3. “Owning one’s success is key to achieving more success” (page 44).
4. “The ability to forge a unique path with occasional dips, detours, and even dead ends presents a better chance for fulfillment” (page 53).
5. The criteria that matters most when selecting a new position — potential for (fast) growth (page 58).
6. When negotiating, “letting the other side make the first offer is often crucial to achieving favorable terms” (page 59).
7. “The cost of stability is often diminished opportunities for growth” (page 61).
8. “Searching for a mentor has become the professional equivalent of waiting for Prince Charming” (page 66).
9. “Most people in the position to mentor are quite adept at problem solving. Give them a problem to solve” (page 71).
10. “Aiming for perfection causes frustration at best and paralysis at worst” (page 125).